Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Tired

Today I am tired. However, as much as I would love to go crawl into my bed I must study. I have a midterm test on Thursday and haven't even made it through the study guide yet. Kids have a way of being distractors.
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The foster kids had visitation today. That means that you dress them up all nice and send them off and wait to see what rebound effects you have when they come back home. In the past I have had really negative behaviors after a visit. With these kids I don't. I would say that it is their age except that Larissa had terrible problems after visitations when she was only 5 months old.
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Something else I always wait for is criticism from the biological parents. Many times they like to complain about something, clothing, hair, anything. I have had to take kids that I knew weren't sick to the doctors because the parents say that they are sick and I was not taking appropriate care of them.
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You have to explain every scratch and/or bruise. You are terrified of letting your foster kids do kid things. Every time my kids hurt themselves (no matter how minor) I always take a picture and send it to the SW with an explanation of how it happened.
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Kiwi has healing marks from her MRSA and Dimples has a tiny scratch on her chin where she got tired of crawling and went face first into a toy. However, parents didn't say a word. No complaints about hair or anything.
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I must say that I can understand this to a certain degree. They have lost control of their kids and need to maintain some any way they can. Also, the reputation of foster parents isn't too good. Apparently we do this for money. Oh, I haven't seen any subsidy payment yet, I should get something the middle of next month.
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So, the visit went well. Oh, and the October court date may not happen....and we all know that November and December court dates are hard to come by. So their is a change that my short term placement MAY be here until January. Good thing I went ahead and bought that second crib. Of course, who knows, the October date may happen.
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I wonder if I am scaring anyone away from being a foster parent!?
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I timed a doctor appointment for Anthony while the kids were at visitation. Worked out great. I got his letter for ADHD for his IEP on the 27th. He had a terrible week last week and I wonder if his ADHD meds need adjusting. Problem we are having is he lost weight so she can't increase his dosage. So she put him on intuniv. Anyone hear of it? Dang, I just realized that I forgot to get refills of his meds, geez another call to make and trip to pick it up. Funny what perpetual tiredness will do for you.
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So, another great day comes to an end. All the little ones are in bed and the house is quiet. My crops will be ready in 30 minutes then I will head to bed to study. I wonder how long I will last before I fall asleep.

Nite all.

2 comments:

  1. I hate the rebound effects. I had a baby from 2 mo to 9 mo. It started getting bad about 6 mo. At first she'd be terribly angry at me when she came back--like why did you send me to these people (she was African American and the grandma would put super tight braids in to the point she had swollen glands in the neck. Boy did that cause issues!) Then she'd get mad when the case worker came to pick her up. Glad he had to take her. It was visitation at the home so I didn't do the drop off.

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  2. YES! our last little guy was on intuniv and from what I read/heard about him from time before the meds to the time after, it did it's job most of the time!

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