Saturday, May 20, 2017

Itty Bitty

Itty Bitty has arrived. I don't have much information yet. I don't have a medicaid card. I don't have any WIC cards. Whenever they get me a medicaid number I will have to make an appointment with WIC. I dislike WIC but the formula is worth the effort. Typically I don't go after the first year because what they give after that is not worth it to me personally.

Itty Bitty is tiny, two months old, under 9 lbs with GERD. Apparently he wasn't fed much so he wouldn't spit up too much. Makes for a skinny itty bitty.

I had forgotten how tiny newborn clothing was and those size zero diapers, my girls put them on their dolls. Hopefully we can fatten him up while DSS looks for a family member.

If I have the gumption tomorrow morning I hope to go to some garage sales. I need a baby bath and some other baby items. That is the danger of quitting foster care and then getting back into it, resupplying.

Well, I am off to bed. Itty bitty is on a 2 hour feeding schedule and I just put him down with a full belly.

Thursday, May 18, 2017


It is official, I received a text from my licensing worker that we were in the system last night. This morning I received a call asking if we would take placement of a 2 month old. He has been in a temporary home for a week. They had no one is this area who could take a 2 month old!? I was told that within 2 days of getting licensed everyone in this area will have a placement, it is that critical.

Since this baby is in another county they wanted to do the move tomorrow. So I went and bought a car seat, diapers and a few bottles. A foster parent gave me some baby clothing and wipes that had been donated. Tomorrow I will see if the social worker does get back with me. I understand that this is foster care and things change quickly.

Just in case, we are ready...

Three car seats will fit in a row of seats in my car! One is reserved for Vaida. I love my van.


Two weeks ago I decided to call a local therapist who has been working in our area for 30 years. I told her that I had two daughters that I was concerned about but that maybe it was me who needed to see someone!

I talked about Larissa and the bullying and that she is having a hard time dealing with it. She knew someone right off the bat that she felt she should see. I scheduled her an appointment and we met with her therapist today. I was surprised, the therapist asked her what she needed help with and Larissa said how to deal with the bullying. Well, she also asked for help in math, I am going to work with that this summer. I think it is a good fit, she has several appointments scheduled and Larissa seemed willing to talk with her. She also enjoyed the lunch we went to afterwards.

The original therapist I called said that I should come in and talk more about Michelle. We sat and talked for 90 minutes about Michelle. As puberty is hitting and Emma is doing well, Michelle is declining. The lies haven't stopped, the need for control is all consuming, jealousy is and always has been terrible. However, now she is having tantrums when she has any type of consequence, hitting others when she doesn't get her way, not willing to accept that she does anything as she always blames others, acting like a chameleon and putting forward a face that she thinks each person wants to see. Generally all of her behaviors have worsened. I had always thought that her behavior issues were related to the moves, the early trauma and neglect. The therapist originally thought we were dealing with RAD but now she doesn't think so. I don't either. She mentioned mood disorder and perhaps she needs to be on some medication for it. I hadn't thought that way but it does make sense. So our objective for right now is to have her evaluated. We are going to take her to our neurobehaviorist, the same one who has evaluated all our other kids and will Emma as well. However, I first need to get to the doctor for a referral and then I know that the wait list is long to see him.

I have been asked why I am taking Larissa to a therapist and not Michelle when it is apparent that Michelle has worse issues. Well, I am following the recommendation of the therapist I saw. Larissa's problems are more easily solved and someone who works with this age group is right in town. Michelle's is more complicated, her lies and changing personality make therapy hard. I will be very curious to see what the testing shows.

Wednesday, May 17, 2017


We have survived two days of pictures. Tomorrow is the last picture day then Friday Larissa has practice for the final dance. Saturday is dress rehearsal and Sunday is recital day. Then we get to take a much needed break from dance.

Emma has done well in dance this year. She has grown so much.

I haven't had time to cook these last two days but on Monday I did cook Sarah a going away meal and we had a little left over. Tomorrow I will make a casserole so that when John gets home there will be a meal in the oven ready to eat.

I received a text from my social worker today. She said that we are "approved in the Capss and she was doing our sheet for the placement unit". I assume she is talking about whatever program they use because I have never heard of it. Geez, it took so long that we will have to redo SLED's and other annual paperwork in less than 5 months!

Tomorrow, therapist visits and what is going on.

Tuesday, May 16, 2017


In my original post for Sarah's mission trip, I didn't put the entire link to contribute. This should be the right link  I dropped Sarah off in Charlotte at the SIM office for a week of training. I pick her up next week and then she has a little time home before she flies to Canada.

Also, after much nagging our foster license has been approved. Now it just has to be but in the system. I called last Monday and my husband left a message on Friday. Nagging helps I guess.

I was right, it would get approved when we were busiest. John has foot surgery coming up, dance, therapists, and many other appointments.

We have pictures all week for dance and dance recital this coming Sunday, crunch time.

Sneak peek.......can you guess what this picture reminds me of?

Monday, May 15, 2017

Benjamin and his Girlfriends

Benjamin with his girlfriend on the bench. I took these pictures a month ago when he first told me about his girlfriend. I didn't realize until today that he had a girlfriend in the backyard too. Where do these kids come up with there ideas?! He definitely has a good imagination.

Our Weekend

We had a nice weekend. 

John and I took advantage of having Sarah home and went on a Saturday afternoon date to watch a movie and shop a bit.

After we got home I wasn't in a cooking mood so I took care of my mom and then we grabbed the kids and headed back to Columbia to shop for Sarah some things she needs for her trip and to eat.

We tried some place called Mod Pizza. The kids really liked picking what they wanted on their pizzas. I thought it was a little expensive. The mini pizzas were almost five dollars and that didn't include a drink. Drinks were almost two dollars so we told the kids to get water. We realized that some were spoiled when they balked at that! I think they may have more water in their future, it doesn't hurt them. I thought that the food was OK, I might go back just because of the opportunity to make your own pizza. However, it won't be a frequent thing.

On the way home there is a sno cone place. We have a weakness. We actually have an ice shaver, I need to get some flavoring and a way to freeze the ice. Until then, we stop at Pelicans.

Is it bad that they know us? They sell what they call the $20 bag. You get 25 dollar tokens for $20, they have it out for us when we get to the window.

Sunday was Mother's Day. The kids made me breakfast and then we headed to church.

After church we headed home for a bit to take care of my mom and rest before we went to an early dinner at Sumo's. Tasha and family brought Joselin. Kassi had to work so she couldn't make it.

I think that Benjamin was hungry.

The kids all enjoyed the show.

We got home and after feeding my mom we jumped into the pool. It is cold and the crazy weather hasn't helped to warm it up. It gets hot here then cold and rainy for a day or two.

Larissa is in her clothing because she got tossed in. We were doing an exercise train.

I hope to lose some weight this summer, the thyroid and I will be fighting over that one.

Lately we have been eating out too much. Besides the cost, fast food isn't good for you. However, I am tired of cooking. I feel like I cook the same stuff over and over. I need to find some healthy meals as well. We love southern cooking with lots of gravy, potatoes and such. If anyone has any simple, healthy meal ideas please share them!

Happy Mother's Day to all my caregiving readers!