Monday, May 23, 2016

Dance 2016

This last week was all about pictures, practice and recital. It was a great week but I am glad it is over!

Larissa was in 5 dances and Anthony in one. This is Anthony's last year of dance, he wants to just do Boy Scouts next year. Emma says that she wants to do dance again next year. We will see, she says that after every recital then when the year begins and I tell her that if I go out and buy her all the shoes then she has to stick with it for the year she decides against signing up.

Larissa did a solo again this year. After the tears of last year I was happy that she wanted another go at it. I must say that she did great! She nailed it with her expressions and everything. It was such a relief for me because I knew how devestated she was last year with the errors she made. I had a friend come up to me and tell me it made her cry. I did too, this is the area in which she excels. Her learning issues and epilepsy are forgotten when she is on the dance floor.

We got to give Noah a little love.

We had some Joselin drama which I will do a different post on later.

The kids finish school this week and then we are on summer break. We have a few small vacations planned and hope to do some swimming soon, if the weather ever decides to actually be hot. It has been cool here then hot. I can't keep track of it.

Anyone else have end of year dance recitals?

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Recital Time

Our week, practice, pictures and more practice.

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Love that Painting Toddler

Benjamin loves to paint. He gets to paint frequently since I use him as my toddler paint ideas guy in the studio. He has gotten more intentional in his paint, not just mixing it all together to make brwonish gray. Somedays he is right handed and other days he paints left handed.

I have a lot of pictures of him making his leaves. I just love those little fingers intentionally making their mark.

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Rough Weekend

We had a rough weekend here! Start with an argument between my husband and I. As I was dividing all the marital assets other issues became more important. A pump in our washing machine split causing water to go everywhere because the pan/drainage system failed. 

Our laundry room is used as a closet for linens, off season clothing, donations and just about everything else. There was a lot of clothing sitting around and the water creeped everywhere.

I would love to be able to say that it is all put away but that is not the case. We have an extremely busy week this week so a lot of it is still waiting for me. I almost cancelled a dentist appointment to deal with it but realized that I had already rescheduled twice, I very much dislike the dentist.

So, how was your weekend?

Monday, May 16, 2016

Cut it off!

Larissa has a tender head. She also has a lot of very curly hair. As in a lot, her hair is very thick. It seems to have gotten thicker and curlier as she has gotten older. She does not like for me to do her hair. In tears she asked me to cut it. Really cut it, actually she was up for a shave job. She wants to be able to swim and have fun this summer without worrying about what it will do to her hair. She has already been swimming and I was about to do a major comb out.

I told her that I would cut it but that she had to get braid extensions for her dance recital. She agreed. It was so hard to cut all her beautiful hair off, but it is her hair. I worried that she would be upset once it was actually cut. Quite the opposite, she loved the freedom of it.


Did I say she had thick hair? I told this to her stylist. I warned her not to make the braids too small and not to add too much hair. She said that she understood and that it would take 6 hours. It took almost 10 hours....and guess what? She has thick hair.

If looks could kill, this is at the 6 hour mark and she was ready to shave it all off. I used bribery at this point.

Thankfully she was happy with the end result. She currently has a love/hate relationship with her hair. She likes that it doesn't tangle but she says it is heavy and itchy. After 2 days it has relaxed and no longer hurts her head. Will she do it again, perhaps.

For those who are curious, it cost $160 and I gave a $20 tip.

Anthony and I have been in a hair battle too. I told him that I was no longer going to cut his hair. I struggle to get the smooth fade that he likes. He has been to two local barber and didn't like either one of them. I said I wasn't cutting it and he said that I was. Hmmm. Out stand off lasted quite a while. I do believe that his hair was longer than Larissa's at this point. His hair is different than Larissa's, hers tangles easily at 2 inches, his does not.

Finally I took him into Columbia to a third barber. Ahhh, he liked this haircut and says he is willing to go back. Yay, he no longer looks like a neglected boy. So happy for boys, his cost $15.

Anyone else struggling with hair battles?

Thursday, May 12, 2016

My Neighbor

My neighbor issues have popped up again.We have a small fire pit and he has accused us of burning all our trash in it to include diapers. Not only that but apparently we do it 4 times a week. Uh, none of it is true. We use it very infrequently. However, he called DHEC and they are coming over tomorrow to check out our fire pit and take pictures. That is an annoyance and not even my biggest concern.

Today I had the kids out back pulling weeds to earn a Blizzard. I was pulling some weeds when I heard the kids whispering that he was watching. I looked up and he had his hands on the fence and was peeking over at us. When he saw me he walked away and into his house. The kids told me that he watches them all the time. He heard the kids talking among themselves and came to watch them.

Later Benjamin took off his clothing and went for a swim, the kids went and got their swimsuits on to go swimming with him. I could see the neighbor walking along the fence line. It made me think, how often is he watching my kids? How often does he watch them in their swimsuits while swimming and running around. He is watching my little naked 2 year old. I do not think it is normal behavior to look over the fence to watch your neighbors kids. From what I have read it is legal. He can look over the privacy fence to watch my kids.

All evening this has been eating at me. It feels like such an invasion of our privacy. I guess privacy isn't a real thing even in your completely fenced in yard. We will be putting up a secondary privacy curtain along our pool. It seems crazy that it is necessary.


Wednesday, May 11, 2016


Some days I grow weary of behaviors that never change. They don't change in spite of the fact that they aren't working. I don't understand it. Even after years of trying, the behaviors still don't work.  Yet the behaviors don't change.

The dress. I asked Michelle to put her dress that I found in the half bathroom downstairs stuffed between the sink and the wall. Instead of putting it in her room or laundry she stuffed it by the front door. I threw it away. I am tired of this game and don't give any warnings anymore. She found it in the trash, took it out and stuffed it in a spot in the kitchen. Yea, that didn't work for her either. If she was really interested in keeping the dress she could have taken it upstairs when she saw it in the trash. I don't get it.

Michelle and Emma each have a notebook where their daily behavior is written down. Sometimes I check it daily, sometimes I check it weekly. Every day they come home and the first thing they tell me is that they got green. Emma admitted the other day that she had a yellow.  Michelle had green every day. I slipped up and missed a week. Second week Michelle said she had green every day. Yesterday I realized that I hadn't checked the last two weeks and I asked to see her notebook. She grabs her backpack and goes to the kitchen. I follow her asking her why is she walking away from me. I take her backpack and check her behavior chart. The first week was fine, the next week she must have thought I was never going to check again because she had several days of yellow. Lies. Beyond lies, if she thinks that she won't get caught, she doesn't do the right thing. I told her that eventually the truth comes out. She is getting older and still there is no trust there, none.

Summer vacation isn't here yet but she has already lost the privilege of playing outside without an adult. When she isn't supervised she always hurts someone, somehow. We have been dealing with this for years and she can't stand the limits but she doesn't make the changes necessary to have more freedom. The huge bump on Emma's head lost that freedom for Michelle.

It is tiring. I grow weary. I worry, I can't keep her under constant supervision until she is 18 and then just let her go into the world. At some point she needs to learn to make better decisions, right? Will she? Some days I wonder.