When I was growing up we moved a lot. We didn't have relationships with any extended family, no favorite cousins or aunts. I always felt that I missed out on something.
Little did I know that when I became a parent I would also move my kids all over the world. No close relationship with any extended family. However, I did push sibling relationships. I want my kids to be close and to be able to rely on each other when I am gone. I often tell them that it is a tough world out there and you need to be able to rely on family.
I love seeing my kids have positive relationships with their siblings. Tasha and Jason are currently at Disney World having a great time together. They had a rough start when Jason called the night before and said he had a toothache. By the morning when Tasha went to get him he was throwing up. She took him to an acute care place before they flew out to get him some meds. She called me and said that she felt so motherly. It was strange to me because I am the one who is normally sitting in the waiting room. Thankfully the meds helped and he is having great time.
I love to see when the relationships are so good with my children. I am sad that Joselin was not able to take advantage of those relationships. I still hope that over time things will improve. Now I watch three new kids try and integrate into the family. Some days are rough and then there are the bright moments. The little ones need to get past their jealousy and neglected home survival skills. As long as they hold on to those habits they will have a hard time developing positive relationships. The tattling and hurtful behavior doesn't help with the bonding. I pray that time will change that and they too will enjoy their siblings.
What about you? Do you have a great sibling relationship? Do your children?