I received a call from the teens adoption worker. We know each other, she was Anthony and Larissa's adoption worker. She will be visiting at the end of the month and will bring any paperwork that we need to do. I haven't looked at my homestudy lately but I don't remember if our ages were up to 17. I doubt it because we weren't thinking teenager when we started our homestudy. The homestudy may need to be amended to change the age. We were approved for 4 kids so we fall within that criteria. I know that our foster care license has to be renewed in June, not sure about the adoption homestudy (they have to be renewed annually).
The girls.....doing so much better. Still dealing with occasional tantrums and frequent tattling and lying. Dimples is moving up in age, she is no longer 2. I would put her at close to 4 year old now! She still has some emotional issues that we are trying to pinpoint. We are definitely dealing with attachment issues. Our new therapist is very familiar with DSS children so her comment was, "given their history naturally they have attachment issues and behavior problems." She wants to put a stop to the visits. I am not sure if she will accomplish that or not. Visits are a very touchy thing. Doesn't matter if they refuse drug testing or not, visits go on.
All three of the girls are very close. They sometimes fight and say mean things to each other however, I have been surprised at how quickly they have bonded. Larissa and Dimples are VERY close. I believe that this closeness has helped Dimples to grow emotionally. I think that in some ways Lily is more mature. She has dealt with some issues that Larissa has not. Also, Lily was very mean when she first arrived so she is having to overcome that. She wants to but she struggles.
The girls all want to sleep in Larissa's bedroom. We tried tonight but it didn't go too well. After thinking about it I just don't think that they know how to sleep together in the same room. So tomorrow we are going to try again except for this time I am going to sit and study right outside of the bedroom open door and help them out. Larissa's cries of, "I don't want to be alone" did push me in that direction. We have had other foster kids who needed that to settle down at night.
When I was talking about my teens adoption worker Lily started talking about her parents. It is so confusing to kids when the parents disappear for months and then then reappear as though nothing happened. Guess what....the kids noticed. I asked her what she thought about her visitations and she told me that she wondered if they would go back home. I asked her if she wanted to (expecting that she would, something about that biological home). She surprised me by saying no, she wants to stay here. Knowing some of the recent legal things I know I told her that she would be staying and the visits wouldn't change that. She was relieved. I am annoyed, not at Lily, but at the lawyer who hasn't filed for TPR. I know that I have said it before, but dang, they need stabilization. Not just long term foster care but name changing, your ours forever stabilization.
Anthony....well he plays with the girls alot but he wants to know when the boys are coming!
On that note, have a great evening.