My Mom

My mom is currently in a nursing home in Texas.  When we left Texas we thought that the nursing home would be fine since I have two brothers living in the state.  My mom is from Texas and wanted to stay there.  However, it is not working out.  My brothers are not visiting her. 

I told one brother that if he can get her here I would take care of her from there.  He plans on bringing her here in August.  I have until August to come up with a plan.  She really wants to live with us.  This is much more feasible here because of the layout of the house.  However, I have to decide if I can care for her.  She is in a wheelchair due to several strokes.....and incontinent, can I deal with that?

She has Medicaid in Texas but I would have to reapply here since it doesn't transfer from state to state.  I can't apply until she is instate.

Obviously if John gets a job overseas I will have to find a nursing home for her.  Jason has already said that he would go visit her and check up on her if it comes to that.  He has a soft spot for my mom so I know he will. 

I talked to my mom today.  She wants to live with me and help babysit.  I know she really can't babysit but I can understand her desire to be helpful.  What do you say to your mom in that situation?  I am such a softie I couldn't flat out say no.

So, I am searching for information.  I need to know what type of help I can get for in the home.  I would need someone to be here when I go to class.  We would have to build some ramps, but not extensive, for two steps into the house and three steps inside of the house.  I would need a hospital bed.  I am not even sure what else at this time.  A handicap van would be nice but that is not feasible!

Anyone know where to get the best information on elder care?

I am in the exploring stage and not really sure what will come of this.  I guess I will know by August.