My mom is currently in a nursing home in Texas. When we left Texas we thought that the nursing home would be fine since I have two brothers living in the state. My mom is from Texas and wanted to stay there. However, it is not working out. My brothers are not visiting her.
I told one brother that if he can get her here I would take care of her from there. He plans on bringing her here in August. I have until August to come up with a plan. She really wants to live with us. This is much more feasible here because of the layout of the house. However, I have to decide if I can care for her. She is in a wheelchair due to several strokes.....and incontinent, can I deal with that?
She has Medicaid in Texas but I would have to reapply here since it doesn't transfer from state to state. I can't apply until she is instate.
Obviously if John gets a job overseas I will have to find a nursing home for her. Jason has already said that he would go visit her and check up on her if it comes to that. He has a soft spot for my mom so I know he will.
I talked to my mom today. She wants to live with me and help babysit. I know she really can't babysit but I can understand her desire to be helpful. What do you say to your mom in that situation? I am such a softie I couldn't flat out say no.
So, I am searching for information. I need to know what type of help I can get for in the home. I would need someone to be here when I go to class. We would have to build some ramps, but not extensive, for two steps into the house and three steps inside of the house. I would need a hospital bed. I am not even sure what else at this time. A handicap van would be nice but that is not feasible!
Anyone know where to get the best information on elder care?
I am in the exploring stage and not really sure what will come of this. I guess I will know by August.