Tuesday, June 21, 2011


I will admit that I am not a very patient person when it comes to waiting.  I really don't like to sit back and just let things happen.  Adoption is one of those things.  I get frustrated.  I want to be matched now.  When that doesn't happen I think it may never happen. 

I have been told to look at photolistings and to send enquiries.  I do.  Most of the time I do not get a response.  When I do it is quickly obvious that the child is not a match for our family.  The photolistings do not give much information.  I have learned that an active child most likely means ADHD.  Or a child who need lots of structure could be ODD.  But, I had no clue that a child who is interested in becoming a veterinarian is actually a mentally disabled child who will never live independently.  Deal breaker is that child can not be left in a room alone with a male......uh, I can't imagine a father never allowed to be alone with his daughter.  Most of the time a child is not a match for our family is because they must either be the only or youngest child in the home.  The few call backs I get are very quick.  They mention either must be youngest, must be only or can not be with males and that child is marked off the list of possibilities.  They can not give that information on the photolisting so you have to submit an inquiry to find that out.

So, we have not been matched with any children.  We are open to older children, children with medical problems, developmental delays and even some mental issues.  However, we can't find a child.  Honestly, I don't understand it.  How can we allow these children to become so damaged.  This is not some poor, undeveloped country.  We are supposed to be a nation that takes care of our children.  Yet, we are producing a lot of children who are not able to function within a family. 

Ugh, just so frustrated today.


  1. I was approved for FL state adoption. I asked about 28 or more kids. Sent my homestudy. Nothing. That's how I ended up adopting the twins from haiti.

  2. We walk the same road in TX. Like you enquire and never hear anything. If we hear the same story as with you the won't fit with our kids. It is sad and such a broke system.

  3. I'm right there with you too. It is a sad, sad system.