John and I were considering adopting an older child. We have been gathering information for a few weeks. Sadly we have decided not to pursue adoption. We feel that given her mental illnesses she needs to be in a smaller family. It is sad because we do have the experience to deal with her mental health issues. Honestly, we are scared. She is older (prepuberty) and has had a lot of moves. We also worry about attachment. It is a hard thing to realize that you can not help a child. Adoption is so hard. Making these decisions is heartbreaking.
In other news, John has decided that he will commute to work. It is a 100 mile commute (one way) and I don't know how long he will last doing that. I really wish that he could find a local job. His lease was up on the 1st but he didn't give a 30 day notice until the middle of last month so he has less then 2 weeks before we will be in Augusta packing up his apartment. Anyone know of a good job opportunity in Columbia?
I really feel that there are going to be some changes around here, I am just not sure what they are yet.
Hi! I followed you over from Mary's blog (mamamem.blogspot). I read a few posts and think I'm going to keep reading! :)
ReplyDeleteThat is a long commute!!
ReplyDeleteI agree that kids from the system need smaller families that can focus on the child's special needs. We had a girl that needed to move from our area because of all the reminders of her birth family. Wish we could help them all.
ReplyDeletehttp://foster2forever.com