Friday, January 21, 2011

Adoption, Slow Going

Some days I am so frustrated by the system. Months ago we decided to start the adoption process. We never received the paperwork from adoption services in spite of repeated calls. During that time we decided that maybe we were meant to wait so we just let it be. Finally one of the workers in the office who knows us dropped a packet in our mailbox.
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We filled it out and returned it. Really it wasn't that long ago but it seems like it was. I called yesterday to see of our packet had arrived in the right place and to also see what else we had to do on our part. Since we were certified foster parents over the summer we already have fingerprinting and medicals. Since we adopted about 1 1/2 years ago they said that they just need to request our homestudy from the state and update it. Should be quick.
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I was told yesterday that they had requested documents from the SW who did our foster care license. That they would look for my file and see about coming out to update our homestudy. It will be a quick process.
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Yea, sounded good until I called our licensing worker and she told me that she has never received a request from adoptions for documents. Apparently the adoption worker is transferring real soon. Our licensing worker did email the adoption worker and ask her if she needed anything for our adoption file since she knew we were going that route.
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I don't appreciate being lied to. Be honest and tell me you hadn't gotten to it yet. Tell me you are transferring soon and giving the file to so and so. Just don't lie to me.
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So, looks like it will be a long process just to get our name put into the database. The thing that bothers me is that right now there may be a child who is meant to be ours sitting in a foster home thinking no one want them.

2 comments:

  1. I wish our state worked like that. We were on file for over two years and nothing. They don't match you, you have to watch the waiting child list and have your homestudy sent for each child. But mostly your file is just ignored. Almost all of the kids are Jax, Orlando, Tampa or Miami and they consider us too far away to transition a child. That's how we ended up adopting from Haiti. We were still on the list technically during all that time too.

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  2. Oop--I meant worked like that in putting you in a database to be considered, not in being slow. Ours is good at that!!!

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