Yesterday Larissa and I were shopping at Walmart. She was sitting in the front of the basket sitting on a big box. A group of girls walked past and stared at Larissa. One of those in your face stares that you really can't help but notice. We get stares all the time and have talked about them at times when it has been so obvious.
Normally it is not a big deal. Something was different this time. Shortly after they walked past Larissa but her hat on her head and tried to hide her face in her lap. It broke my heart to watch that reaction.
I went to her and asked her what was wrong. She didn't answer. I asked her if it was the girls that were staring at us. She said yes. I asked her why it made her hide herself.
Her response was they were staring because of her nose and she is ugly. In spite of us telling her that Emma is just being mean and what she says is not true, Larissa has taken it to heart.
She has had black women come up to her and tell her that she has beautiful hair, that she has beautiful skin tone and that she is beautiful. It doesn't happen as often as with Emma but it is heartfelt when they do.
I whispered to her that the girls didn't think she was ugly, that wasn't why they were staring. She looked at me with doubt and I told her that those girls were wondering how that white mama had such a beautiful black child. They were curious and confused, they didn't know about adoption like we do.
She must have believed me because after a bit she sat back up and took her hat off. I was happy to see that. It made me realize that we need to talk more about our unique family with the kids. It also made me realize that Emma's words are taking root and I need to do something to stop the bullying in my house.