Dear Mama

Yesterday your baby was 4 months old.  I took pictures and mentioned to everyone at church how he was now 4 months old.  He has grown a lot in the last month.

For the last three weeks you have not showed up for visitation.You have missed so much.

The last time you saw him he was staring at fans and shadows.  He really wasn't interested in faces.  Now he watches faces.  Sure, he still likes fans but faces are now exciting.  He will even return smiles.

The last time you saw him he didn't reach for items.  He would wave his hands around but didn't have purposeful use of his hands.  Now he reaches for items and grabs for toys with purpose.  He has gained control over his hands.

He has also found his feet which he loves.  He can now sit with minimal assistance.  He is so much more aware of his surroundings and interacts with it. 

When you last saw him he would grab onto hair and hold on for all his might.  He still does that.  However, he now loves hair.  If you take a piece and tickle his cheeks with it he will give a great laugh.

You have missed three visits and lost a month of your sons life and development.  You have other children so you know how quickly they grow at this age.  You talk to me about bonding with your child yet you don't show up to visit with him.  Actions speak louder than words.  Visit with your child.  Bond with your child.  You are working to get him home, make that a positive move for him, not a fearful one.