I am behind in posting so I will be doing some catching up. Life has been so crazy busy here.
Emma turned 7.......unfortunately for her she chose to cut off all of our foster daughters hair the day before. It really made it hard for me to get into the celebrating spirit. Not only did she take the scissors upstairs with the intent to cut A's hair but then she proceeded to lie about the situation. How did I know she was lying? Well, as I was looking at A's hair in shock Emma started screaming and crying that she didn't do it. Uh, I hadn't even gotten to the point of blaming yet. First we looked for scissors. None. Told me that someone brought them upstairs and then took them downstairs.
Another good clue was A pointing at Emma and stating that she cut her hair followed by Anthony claiming that he saw her going upstairs with scissors. Yet through it all Emma was screaming that she didn't do it. This persisted for two days until she finally just admitted to what we all already knew.
I am not sure what is going on with this screaming and crying when guilty. Emma, Michelle and Kassi all do it. Most of the time I know that they are guilty by the degree of their denial.
I believe that Emma cut her hair for a specific reason. I feel it is jealousy but I could be wrong. I do know that many people say that the two look alike, they are both blond, blue eyed. I also know that Emma lost her baby status. I find this reaction interesting because little ones have typically not been a problem before. Either way, this has gained Emma a bedroom in the downstairs closet (that has been the bedroom to several kids), loss of the privilege of going upstairs at all because I don't trust her and a smaller birthday.
Her timing was very bad for her. Given her thought processing I am sure that she didn't think about it.
She did receive one gift and I did chose to give her the one that she had specifically asked for. She also got to go to dinner and had a cake.
Thankfully A is super cute in her pixie cut and her mother was fine with the haircut. Emma is back to less privileges. This seems to be the way things go, one step forward and two steps back. Sometimes it feels as though some of my kids are more comfortable with having less freedoms.
So here we go, stepping forward again.