While we were living in Texas it was determined that Anthony had moderate expressive and receptive language delays. (If you haven't been reading long, Anthony was not spoken to at all until he came into care at the age of 2 1/2 and we dealt with a lot of language issues.)
Just the next year we moved to South Carolina and at the end of the school year they tested him and said that he was fine with his expressive and receptive language and no longer needed services. I remember at the time thinking that was a pretty amazing difference from moderate to no problems in one year.
Now that I have been working with him I can see that he still has severe receptive delays. Working hours to get him to understand a few facts is a struggle. We have been saying that he is unmotivated, lazy and defiant. Although he does have some of those issues, I haven't seen those in the last week when he has been trying to maintain the good grades he achieved the week before.
This little line in this written piece caught my attention:
"Inconsistent performances are one of the most common characteristics of
auditory and/or language processing difficulties, so individuals may often be
perceived as unmotivated, lazy, over-dependent, pragmatically awkward, or
Ahhh, I feel that is describing Anthony.
Of course all of this came to me this afternoon when I decided to lay down for a minute. No rest for the weary.
I called Anthony's teacher to talk to her about this. First I asked her how his med changes were working. She said that she could see a difference in him both with the ADHD and mood changes. She was amazed at how much his grades have improved. I told her that they were hard won as we have studied for hours to get them. I also told her that he had to be retaught everything and then the facts were repeated over and over. Then we made cards. Then we went over them again. After the first week when he got good grades I could see that he was trying to get more. He appeared unmotivated and lazy but was in fact struggling to understand. I told her that he had been Dx'd with receptive language disorder in TX and then it was dismissed when we moved here. I also told her that I wanted to revisit it and that I would bring it up in our next meeting we have scheduled. Then I asked her to watch to see if she sees times where she might think he doesn't understand, times when she might have thought he was being defiant or lazy and unmotivated. There was silence and then she had an aha moment. She said that when put that way she has seen where she gives the class instruction and he just sits there like she didn't say anything. She has to go up to him and repeat herself to him. She is going to watch from a different point of view and document for me.
Then I decided to look for his testing in Texas and South Carolina. Funny, the testing was sitting right on top of some papers waiting to be filed. (Yes, my filing is that far behind). Now I just need to find that scrap piece of paper where I wrote downt he time for our next meeting and I am set.
In my heart I feel that this is part of his problem. I have to wonder if his lack of motivation is because he just doesn't understand. Either way, it is something I feel that I need to investigate further.
Yes, my kids make me constantly rethinking things.