I don't understand it but I know it to be true. Emma can go to school with the worst haircut possible and she might get the "who cut your hair" questions or even people laughing about her hair but she is not told that she is ugly because of her hair.
Larissa can go to school with braided hair, beaded hair, natural hair and someone will tell her that she is ugly. Not just her hair but her. Her hair makes her ugly.
That night she wanted me to braid it, I almost cried. I want her to be strong. I want her to not care what everyone says. I work towards that but we aren't there yet. She is very much a people pleaser and takes all the comments to heart. Lets face, it is human nature to want others to accept you. We wouldn't have as big of a bullying problem if words didn't hurt. But they do hurt and when they are spoken often it is hard to fight that.
I will continue to build up my child and teach her about the world. Some days it is just hard. Why can't we all just learn to care, love and respect one another. Parenting from the trenches is hard.