Do you teach your kids respect? Do your kids struggle with showing respect?
I know that in our house we struggle with children who struggle with showing respect. It seems like when they finally understand that at our house we expect them to show respect something happens to make them test that fact. Typically it is them watching kids who do not show any respect to their parents.
Our challenge of the month is Anthony. He has been doing so well. Really showing growth and improving on his behaviors. Then we put him in Boy Scouts. We thought this was a good thing. Unfortunately, it has not proven to be so. John does the activities with Anthony (which is why you don't see any pictures from the activities). After every event John comes home and tells me that the kids do not listen to their parents at the meetings and are very wild.
The turning point was a weekend camp out a few weekends ago. It was bad. The kids were so disrespectful. Anthony came home to try it out. It didn't go well for him so then he got his anger back. Anger we haven't seen since he got put on his mood disorder medication. He has tried flat out ignoring me, picking on the girls, ignoring restrictions. Finally this weekend I pulled out the big guns....I told him that he seems to forget that everything he receives comes from us, the parents. You don't disrespect the person who is supporting you. Anyone use that?
This weekend I told him that I was not going to spend any money on him outside of the home until he turns his behavior around. He was able to go to the Renaissance Festival because kids were free. However, he had to pack a lunch because I wasn't going to buy him any food there. He missed out on bread soup bowls, turkey legs and chocolate covered marshmallows. He also didn't have the opportunity to jump on the bouncy thing.
I am frustrated. It seems that so many parents don't expect anything from their children. They allow their children to talk to treat them with disrespect. They haven't established a strong separation from parent and child. I don't know how many times I have told my children that I am not their friend and that they are the child. Sure there comes a time when that relationship starts to tip. I am more of a friend with my adult children, but I am also someone that they come to for advice. They trust that what I have to say has value. We respect each other. I give my opinion but recognize that they are adults and don't have to use it.
These kids grow up and become the adults within our society. How will our society look with so many people showing disrespect for everyone and everything. Highest incarceration rate in the world? If you look it up we actually are rated number 1.
Disrespect is only one of my pet peeves. Other big ones for me are a sense of entitlement, lying and not taking ownership for their own actions.
What are your pet peeves for behavior in your children?