Foster care is supposed to be temporary. Anthony and Larissa were foster children for 3 years before they got TPR. Emma and Michelle were pretty close to that too. I just don't understand this. It shouldn't take 3 years for the courts to determine that the parents are not able to work their plan.
I think that if these children were able to be adopted sooner then less damage would be done. I know that the extended visitation for three years had an impact on Anthony and Larissa's behaviors. Anthony acted out for 3 years and Larissa developed severe anxiety issues. Three years of these behaviors makes it harder to change once they are adopted.
With Emma and Michelle long placement in foster care meant many moves. Seven different homes in a span of a few years caused extreme harm to these girls. Sometimes I think that they were hurt more by their time in foster care than from their biological family.
When I read about kids coming into care as babies and then aging out of the system 18 years later I feel both angry and sad. Our system has failed these kids. They go out into the world without a family.
The following article is about a child trying to find a family before he ages out.....it shouldn't be that way.
Orphan Pleads for a Family