Several years ago when we had him evaluated we were told that there would come a day when he would not be able to keep up and would fall further and further behind. He had been diagnosed with a brain injury and TBI went onto his school records. We were told that he will continue to grow but that his rate of growth would not keep up with his peers rate of growth, the difference would get wider and wider. We are seeing that at home and at school.
At the IEP meeting both his regular and resource teachers felt that he needed to be in a self-contained classroom setting. The school psychologist wanted to move him now. We did not agree to moving him now, his teacher doesn't feel that he needs to be moved now either. However, we did make further modifications to his IEP so that he can finish the year out with less struggles.
I worry, eventually his development line will stop growing. I worry for his future because he has other issues which impact his abilities. Anger is one of them, lack of motivation is the other. If he gets frustrated he gets angry or he just shuts down. If something is a challenge he shuts down. He does not push himself.
At home we have really come to realize that he struggles with daily functions. He will be 12 this summer but still can not follow multi-step directions. We are searching for ideas in the home so that he can function better and have less frustrations.....which lead to anger.
I talked to the school counselor about his anger and I asked her for suggestions for a therapist. She told me that I would be better able to work with him and she sent home this workbook for us to do over the summer.
Anyone do this book?
It looks interesting, Area 1 Understanding Anger, Area 2 Safe Ways to Release Anger, Area 3 Cognitive Restructuring, Area 4 Relaxation and Area 5 Conflict Management. I actually plan on working on it with all the kids. Michelle has anger issues as well so it will help her too. Emma and Larissa not so much but I think that the conflict management couldn't hurt. I have come to realize that Anthony doesn't always understand his feelings so starting with understanding anger will be good for him.
We have talked to him about his placement for next year. He hasn't said too much about it. I to believe that he was relieved. This year has been a struggle for him and his behavior over the year has gotten worse and worse as the struggles got harder and harder.
Making these decisions for my kids is really hard. However, I really feel that we are making this decision for his best interest. It sucks and to think that they believe that his TBI came from someone shaking him as a baby, ugh. He will forever be impacted by someones lack of control.