Michelle went to camp with our church. It was only for a few nights and she was so excited about it. However, we have been concerned about her since she returned. I understand that camp with your church should be a very nurturing environment. I expected the adults to be loving and encouraging. I also thought that it would be a great time for Michelle to develop some relationships with her peers at church.
Unfortunately that didn't happen. Michelle came home from church crying, crying for the adults. A majority of the pictures I have seen from camp are of Michelle with either adults or teens. I believe I saw one picture of her with her peers.
Michelle's birthday is next week and she wants to have a party. I have decided that we will not. She will get dinner, cake and presents on her birthday and then a some point between hers and Anthony's birthday we are going to the water park. The reason....she only has adults on her invitation list. When pressed she can come up with names of kids but these aren't real friends. Anthony doesn't have many friends either.
We now have 12 year old C in the house. Michelle is by her side constantly. When C is in the shower Michelle sits and waits for her. I had to stop Michelle from sitting across from C because Michelle was copying all her eating mannerisms. Michelle has changed all her likes and dislikes to whatever C likes or dislikes. Even my husband has noticed this and says it looks so unnatural. Michelle rarely plays with her siblings now.
I can't say that camp caused this issue. I can only state that this issue has really gotten worse since she went away. I am struggling with what to do. I know that Kassi leaving had an impact as well. I was concerned with that relationship because Kassi had Michelle keep secrets for her. It was unhealthy. C should be leaving on Monday so that obsession will be gone but I believe that it will not be the end of the problem.
Michelle used to play with her siblings. There were typically some issues because Michelle is very controlling. She can be a bully and tell lies to get others in trouble. It has been suggested that she doesn't know how to interact with her peers. Perhaps that is true.
Anyone else have this type of issue? Any suggestions? I am seeking help because I see that this problem is affecting Michelle's overall well being.