We are dealing with a lot of medical issues with little miss. In the midst of allergy issues she broke her leg! This freaked me out because we have never had an injury like that with any of our foster kids. It is a buckly fracture right below her knee so she has to wear a cast up her thigh for 4 weeks. I went from the doctor office to the hospital for x-rays and then to the bone doctor to have a cask put on. At the doctors office we talked about her allergy results as well where I told her that I felt that milk was not her only issue. Well, I put her in a different car seat that was closer to the door since she wasn't standing and the strap made her break out!
She goes to the allergy doc next week. This is the same place that said she needed tubes put in her ears and her adenoids removed back in October when we first received placement of her. The mother didn't sign before leaving the state and DSS never got the paperwork approved to have it done. Interestingly enough, she hasn't had an ear infection since we got her.
Her bone doctor does not want her to walk for 2 weeks so she is getting carried everywhere. Interestingly this seems to be good for attachment. She has spontaneously kissed me while I have been carrying her. I was concerned about how DSS would react to the accident and they don't seem concerned. Her doctor does not want her moved as we are seeing a lot of specialists right now and trying to figure her out. DSS said they would only be concerned if it appeared to be abuse which it is not. Yes, in foster parent paranoia I imagined them rushing in and pulling out all of my kids. Then I realized that they had no where to put them.
Next I got a visit from Itty's social worker. She is always brief and quick on her visits. I text her updates and pictures so not much is said on the actual visits. She pretty much just want to lay eyes on his and leave, it is over an hour ride one way for her to come here. For this visit she walked in and asked if I had talked to mom lately. She has my cell number and we text pictures and such. I said I had heard from her over the weekend. She then told me that on Monday the aunt called DSS and said that they did not want to pursue placement of Itty. Furthermore, DSS is not willing to do any more homestudies and are looking to go for TPR. I was rather shocked. I know that as with all things DSS this can change. I also know that dad is in jail and mom has done nothing on her treatment plan. Time will tell where that case goes. I think that they have started 4 different homestudies all out of state for him. His mom gives one name at a time and doesn't name anyone else until the preferred person is denied. Apparently she called with a new family member and they are getting fed up. ICPC's require a lot of time and work.
Not only do I deal with my kids social workers, GAL and licensing workers, I also deal with my moms social worker and insurance folks who like to come out. Someone from her insurance has asked to come and do a review. So far she has scheduled with me three times and has not made one visit. One she didn't call until after the visit time, one she texted me a few hours before she was supposed to come and this last time she texted me 30 minutes before her arrival time. I really don't have time to sit around and wait on these people who don't show up.
Well, at least the dryer repairman showed up. Our second dryer has been out and it has been a challenge to get laundry finished! He showed up on time and fixed it, Yay, we are back in business.
How has your last week been going?
I feel guilty to say, my week was so calm. We currently only have 1 placement. A 18 month old girl we have had since she was 9 months. We're waiting on a ICPC to be approved for 2 beautiful little girls the oldest 2 1/2 year old is a prior placement. We had her from birth till 18 months. Then bio mom moved out of state and had another baby
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine how you handle all the laundry, and various Appointments. I will never complain about our laundry, or schedule again.
Would love to hear any tips on how you manage everything in your day.
Prayers for less crazy days.
Busy! Field trip to the state capitol to see the senate in action with 80 8th graders. It was really interesting! Got this message from Blue Sky this week about what they are working on. I really appreciate what they do there!
ReplyDelete"I will be starting group in the afternoon: listening to chapter 13, how to heal from anger. After the kids process that chapter, I am going to take the issues a definite step deeper: the last two chapter have been responses to guilt and anger: those being confession and forgiveness. . ..
I am going to challenge them, about using confession as a tool to attack/rage against someone, rather than a tool of restoration. Also, I am going to challenge them, about how they attack the person who owes them almost nothing, while disregarding the person who owes them much; and how the person they are usually atttacking they owe much. . . After the afternoon, I am going to send them to their rooms to journal, draw, etc. for the rest of the evening. So a few hours of a silent retreat to ponder the conversations."
I could have lived without the issue. Kaleb constantly stirs things up with Rick when I am at the shop. Refuses to get into car, fasten seat belt, locks others out etc. Baby behaviors. Kicks door to break it when alarmed in a room.
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