On Friday Larissa got off of the bus crying. She said that she had hurt her wrist at recess and wanted to see a doctor. Her recess is in the morning. She said that she was crying when she hurt it and asked to call me but her teacher wouldn't let her. She told her to put her head down on her desk. She asked to go to the nurse but her teacher said no.
On the surface her arm looked fine, no swelling and she could use her hand fine but with pain. However, when a kid asks to see the doctor we listen to them and take them. John took her to our local acute care place where they x-rayed her wrist and determined that she had fractured it. The doctor was surprised at the results herself. They put a splint on it and sent her home. The doctor called it a pull back fracture. Larissa was playing ball and when she went to catch it her hand got pulled back to the point that it fractured her wrist.
I imagine it was painful. I am upset that she was sitting in class all day in pain. I am upset that she was crying and wasn't allowed to call me when she asked.
Her injury made me think of the struggles that Larissa is having. To everyone her injury didn't look like and injury, it was invisible. The only one who could feel the pain was Larissa. You have to listen to her to understand that there is a problem.
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On the surface Larissa is a beautiful, active child with no problems. Underneath she is a tired child who struggles to keep up with her peers every day. I don't think that her teacher understands that fatigue.
I have asked that she be allowed to call me when she needs to. The school agrees BUT are afraid that she will take advantage of it. So far this year she has been able to go to the nurse once, when she had a fever.
At our last meeting her teacher says that she frequently has to wake Larissa in class. At that time I asked that she call me on days in which it is particularly bad. I know that she has those days. Some days she comes home complaining of dizziness because she is so tired. How much learning was she doing in that state. Her teacher agrees that some days she is not functioning well, her tests scores range from 0 to 100. However, I have never received any calls because of tiredness, not one.
Once again I will go to the school and I will have it in writing that my daughter must be allowed to call me when she asks. They are so worried that she will take advantage of that, that they don't allow it. What is the purpose of stating that she can call home if they don't allow it?
I will also write that if she is in pain and wanting to call me that they need to allow it. People with chronic fatigue actually feel pain more than others. It would be my decision whether I pick her up or not.
My husband is very close to pulling her out of school. I am torn because on those days in which she is making those 100's she is so proud. I think that we need to readjust how we deal with those days where she is making a zero. That part falls to her teacher. I hope that when Larissa goes back to school on Monday with her splint that her teacher realizes that she should have allowed Larissa to call me. We will see. I am working on that letter now, open to any suggestions. I am trying to not be emotional because I could very easily go that way but I know that it isn't the way to go for results.