Last night Larissa asked me why she was the only one of the girls to have curly hair. Talking genetics to a 4 year old is not possible. I did talk about her other mom who did have curly hair just like her. I have asked for a picture of her biomom and haven't received one yet. I think that I really need one.
Sometimes I think that explaining adoption to a child who was a foster child is harder then explaining foster care to a child whose mom made an adoption plan. How do you tell a child that their mom was not able to care for them so the courts took away their parental rights? That their parents didn't do what was necessary to get them back? I don't want my child to feel that they weren't worth the effort, because they definitely are. It's not their fault, they did nothing wrong.
When we receive foster children and my kids get attached, how do I explain why the foster child is going home and they didn't? Why some parents are able to work their plan and theirs don't? Will it bother them watching other kids going home?
They still ask me about K. I have found out he is doing well and have shared that with them. I use him as an example, that some foster kids go back home.
There is always some pain involved with foster care, attaching to a child and then letting them go is hard. It is hard for everyone in the family, not just the adults.
Kids seem to adapt well, sometimes I wonder if I just worry too much about stuff.