How's Jo?

Joselin has decided that she is living on her bed. She does not leave her room except to go to school, go to church with us (because we make her go since we don't trust her home alone) and to sneak down at night to get food and do her chore. She does not eat with the family. Does not come down to associate with us in any way. We are no longer her family on facebook, although we are still friends............ . I have told her that she needs to get a job but she has not made any attempt to do so. The psychologist at her IEP meeting suggested that she look for a job last week......still no attempt................... I have asked her why she was sneaking boys into the house when I was allowing her to go out. She hasn't given me an answer.................... She will talk to me in the morning when we drive to school and when we go to church. She is often annoyed by my simple requests. She does not have much responsibilities in the home. All of the child care when I am in school has fallen onto Sarah's shoulders. Tasha helps out when she is here but she has gotten a job...................... I am beginning to think that I should give her more chores and not less. She should have more responsibilities in the home. She is a part of the home as long as she lives here and should contribute. I am thinking along the lines of yard work since I don't trust her with the kids and all the stuff in the house. ................................ I few times a week I search her room for our stuff. I have told her that if it isn't hers it shouldn't be in her room. Dad.........that flashlight you were looking for.....I found it. Along with the scissors I was looking for and the duct tape. Small items, but items I have told her to stop taking to her room. I have found items in her room that I know were in my bedroom, this really makes me mad............................ . I have filled out paperwork for her to see a therapist at school. I know that it is futile but I try. ............................. Honestly, I am not sure what else I can do. It is pretty much up to her at this point. She is going to actually be 19 in a few months. She is not making wise choices for herself. (blogging issues with spacing....came out as one huge paragraph and I can't get spacing my normal route)